I’m an advocate for letting my friends go through the good and bad in their relationships. We all have those friends who constantly complains about the same thing and still continues to stay. You have to allow them to complain and vent to you. Eventually they’ll get to a breaking point where they will no longer want to endure that annoyance in their relationship. They’ll finally see their worth and learn a valuable lesson about self love. Its your job as their friend to continue to be there in support of them no matter what decisions they make, even if you get frustrated with telling them the same thing each time or with the person they dealing with. Now of course if any abuse is occurring in their relationship please get him/her out of that situation. I believe you shouldn’t talk bad about your friend’s mate. All of that bashing you’re doing just makes your friend gravitate more towards them. Acknowledge of course how their mate is wrong. Also and most importantly point out the mistakes they themselves have made as well. Don’t be a yes man/woman. Be that friend who truly wants the best for them and their happiness. Be blunt to them and not sugar coat things to lessen the blow.